STOP SETTLING & START DOING WHAT YOU LOVE
I always knew that I was meant for something big, that I wasn’t meant to be ordinary, even when I was a young girl. I always wanted to be known for something great.
I didn’t have a clear understanding of what that meant at the time, but after many trials and errors through my early adulthood, I finally figured it out.
I now know that I want to be known for having helped people to find their passion, pursue their dreams of doing what they love and living a creative life. I want to be known as someone who isn’t afraid to go after her dreams and someone who’s always tried to carve out her own path to success instead of conforming to the norms of society.
Of course, it’s natural for all of us to derail from our purpose at some point in our lives. Things happen; life proves to be full of surprises and shows us that it will never go exactly as planned. Life often has a different plan for us than we imagined when we were little. And unfortunately, for a lot of us that can be quite discouraging. We often take the unexpected to mean that we were not meant to have our dreams fulfilled after all. We start doubting ourselves and saying things like, “What was I thinking? I can’t have that or do that.” And that’s when a lot of us start to conform to other’s expectations, such as our parents or just society in general.
We start to believe that we were silly to have those wild fantasies as children and foolish to think we could accomplish such great things. We then do the “normal” thing and get a “steady & safe” job.
That’s exactly what happened to me for a while. For some years, I gave up on my dreams and did the “normal” thing. I went to school, got a diploma (twice actually, in two different fields) and started working for someone else. I frequently changed jobs because none of them ever made me happy. I never enjoyed any of the jobs I had because they did not light me up in any way. Working for someone else was not my destiny. Deep inside, I needed to create something entirely on my own. I needed to be free to do what I loved as an entrepreneur, and that was the secret ingredient missing in my recipe for success.
Once I realized that was my reality, that I was never going to be happy with any “regular job” out there, I made a decision. I decided to stop wasting my time here on earth and start doing what I loved. I had a great desire to enjoy my life more, to be more, to do more of what felt right to me. I remembered my earlier fantasy and realized that it needed tweaking, but that deep inside I was always meant to be my own boss. I told myself I was done pretending like I was okay with living and ordinary life. I made myself a promise to do something that made me happier.
I knew that it wasn’t going to be easy. I knew it would involve a lot of risk to start my own business, but I also knew that it was the only thing that made sense for me. I needed to satisfy my free spirit and give it what it needed if I was going to make the best of my life. I was no longer satisfied settling for less than amazing.
Now looking back on everything that happened in my life, I understand that claiming my freedom, doing what I love and helping others do the same was my purpose all along. And I am feeling quite proud of myself for taking charge of my own destiny and embracing this path to my personal fulfillment. My only regret is that I didn’t do it sooner. But then again, I’ve also learned to accept that everything happens the way it happens for a reason, so there’s no need for regrets! The only thing we must do is learn from everything we’ve gone through and make the best decisions based on our ability moving forward.
It’s important to remember that it’s never too late to change course and take charge of our own lives. We have dreams and desires for a reason and that reason is to fulfill them. Finding happiness is our purpose.